The Lion's Share

Men and women too, put themselves in the lions' shoes. In the case of the lions' den, the pride can go up to even ten. One male rules the roost but the females cook the goose. When it's dining time, the women usually form a line. They all wait for him to eat while the girls sharpen their teeth. After the male has had his fill, they move like it's just a drill. Taking what is left on the ground, they consume without a sound. They all seem to know the code, because contenders hit the road. The lion plays his part while he controls the ladies' hearts. His mane is heavy like lead, and some things are left unsaid. He can't hunt with the hounds, for he can't complete the rounds. Lionesses do him the honors as they are indeed the better runners. He protects and serves the pride and his job can't be denied.

Women today are doing the same, but they are doing it for the fame. They are bringing the bacon home, but the men are left to roam. Girls think they wear the pants because they work in higher ranks. The men, on the other hand, won't make girls' wishes their commands. Guys think humble calves suck the milk, while the ladies should foot the bill. Young women have their game face on, maybe that's why they can't keep a man. Mature ones beat men at their game, oh yes, cougar is their name! These girls have been around the block, and have now stopped watching the clock. They go for the younger guys now that they've hunted all their lives. These women do the spending and in the same breath do the bending. Meanwhile, the young toys enjoy the ride while not looking for a bride.

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Cheating Habits

Shaggy's song It Wasn't Me says a lot about men and their cheating ways. At the same time, studies have shown that men and women ascribe different definitions to the word 'cheating'. For instance, men usually think that sex has to be involved for it to fit the classification. Women, on the other hand, might think that if a man even shares certain information about himself to another female, he is a cheater. Whatever the interpretation, partners are experiencing problems with each other and many are seeking therapy and counseling to stem the crisis. There must be an underlying reason why of late, the issue is wreaking such havoc. Even if it existed in the past but was swept under the carpet, the fact that it surfaces now with renewed vigor is worthy of investigatory instigation. Here's to a way of examining the picture.

There is a power struggle in the secular arena and men have lost or have been losing their grip on being the main breadwinner in the home. That used to be a status they enjoyed to feel lion tall in their own surroundings. Now the boys are left to stand and take notes as girls are fording their way in the uppermost echelons of society. Something has to give and the guys are currently giving their wives a raw deal to salvage their superiority. Women are emotional beings and who knows that any better than the guys? So the idea is to hit the ones who are more vulnerable where it hurts.

Men Think with the Other Head

The latest statistics shows that 54% of women is single in the USA. At the same time, many eligible bachelors are encountered on the Internet seeking to establish relationships with no strings attached. It seems that these singles represent the women who think like men and come across as repulsive rather than seductive. Men should think like men and women like women, the difference being the reason for an attraction between the genders. Most women believe that men think with their other head, and the danger in that syllogism is that that head tends to have a mind of its own. If that's the case, it begs the question, why would women want to think like men?

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What Men Want/Need

Men have gone astray, no doubt about that. They are like a bull escaped from a pen and on the prowl. The Master needs to carry out a recapture but must be careful about His approach. If He sends a man, that's like showing red to this bull. So He uses a woman because only she can sedate him with her softer side. In doing so, she has to apply that feminine touch to get him tranquilized. A man is capable of doing dangerous damage just like the bull on the loose. If a woman thinks she can join him in the same mood, expecting to bring about a great relationship, she needs to step back and smell the roses. In advancing with the above analogy, she cannot afford to wag her finger in his face to put a rope around his neck. When women think like men, that is what these rambunctious females are in fact doing. Men are doing crazy things to women these days and all because times have changed. The sisters have gained grounds sprinting through economic avenues to match strides with the men. The guys are behaving like the bull, running amok to emphasize that money is only one aspect of life while there are other factors to consider. Two wrongs certainly can't make it right. Hence, from time to time the society trumps up independent women who live on their own, after all attempts fail to choke-hold their men.

No Makeovers: Love Him or Leave Him

Have you ever seen two dogs having sex? The male mounts the female and starts to hump, hump, hump. Then when they are hooked, the male slides off and tries to pull her his way, ending up sometimes in strangers' and even enemies' backyards. Translate that into a relationship encounter between a man and a woman. It's an age-old approach really initiated by men while they were still the aggressor of courtship, but now promulgated by women as a connectivity tool. First, she engages his emotions despite all his weaknesses that she is privy to from day one.Then when she thinks his feelings get the better of him, she gets to work making for a makeover. At first, he gives in to assuage his state of mind, but a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. It's only a matter of time that the dog returns to his vomit because a leopard never loses its spots.

A Word of Caution for Women

Women, stop watching your biological clock for a few moments when you go hunting for a husband. For, as for age, it's really just a number - you're as young as you want to feel. Then when you meet a man, give yourself time to check him out inside out. If he has virtues, they won't be denied, and if he's making too much effort to make them known, that might very well be a stop sign. People who are good, shouldn't have to sing their own tunes, they let others do the honors. You should not just be looking for the strengths because nobody is infallible. So there you go! The same person you have singled out as your suitor must therefore have some faults with which you will have to contend, should you decide to make him an intimate partner. He might not want to be the first to place all his cards on the table, since most human beings want to make a good first impression. Which is precisely the reason why you cannot take what you get at the outset as the ultimate. That's tantamount to a woman who cannot afford to take a man at his word if he utters it in the throes of sexual ecstasy. She needs to wait until he's sober for him to say something that makes sense. Similarly, during the first few months, he's still on a high like a child with a brand new toy, so whatever he says and does during that time would have been executed while he still has his guards up. (See When Love is Doomed at Lulu.com). Hence, in the fist few months or even years, you have your work cut out for you. And this is like bird-watching, where the slightest movement can prevent you from getting a good look at the skylark in its natural habitat. Taking him for a sex drive and ask questions later is a rookie mistake that most women live to regret. However, should you decide against that first rule of thumb, the least you can do is to protect yourself against pregnancy, and by common sense, venereal diseases. But let's just say you have been a good girl who waits to find out all there is to know about your Prince Charming designate. Your next move is to weigh his dirty habits to see if those are things you are prepared to tolerate without bearing too much pain. His vices might be variable as well as they might be fixed. Your job is not to try to change him, using love as the leverage: "If you loved me you would do it for me!" He will do it for the sake of that remark, but what happens when the love plateaus? Therefore, you either take him on board with his baggage or move on to the next suitor in line. There are more fishes in the sea, for God's sake.

Remember This?

What are little boys made of?
Snips and snails, and puppy dogs' tails,
That's what little boys are made of.
What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice, and everything nice,

That's what little girls are made of.

Kids used to recite this memory gem in jest, accepting that boys could get down and dirty but girls were like precious stones, to be cherished, loved and adored. In those days, when a man put his hands on a woman, it was a cardinal sin. Boys couldn't fight girls in school, expecting to go before a tribunal for exoneration. Once there was any form of violence against the sisters, the barbaric brothers were treated with impunity, end of story. So much has changed over the last half-a-century! Girls and by extension women are treated as punching bags all over society. But is it surprising?

Women were created to be to men like ripe fruits are to birds. Once the delicacies are ripe, birds would fly thousands of miles away to find them. In other words, women were created with the power to be the special half of the human race. The only thing that a man has to brag about is his missus, because among his friends, he is absolutely nothing - guys know each other's secrets that they are nothing without their wife. Hence, a girl's dignity is her power, that which enhances her beauty to shine on her man to lionize him. If that dignity disappears, he has nothing to flaunt his gigantism, and therefore loses respect, which is what is rampantly occurring in today's world. A man is like a big ship that depends on a simple rudder to go the distance. A man seems to be the restless soul that cannot find a resting place and it's the make-up of a woman that can settle his energy. He runs the route but he's in search of that dignified woman. When he finds her, he's like the bird that uses its sensory cells to locate the juiciest fruits in the forests. And he's well equipped with antennae to realize when the fruit is unspoiled.